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	<title>Comments on: We&#039;re not even facebook friends anymore . . .</title>
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	<description>Elly is a webdesigner, and snowboarder, a bad dancer, awesome eater, lover of socks, snuggling and Quinn. She lives, breathes and rocks out in London, UK!</description>
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		<title>By: Elly</title>
		<link>http://www.rarg.co.nz/2009/were-not-even-facebook-friends-anymore/#comment-134</link>
		<dc:creator>Elly</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 04 Apr 2009 22:46:27 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>@Sarah - yeah, I think your right. At the same time picking up the phone to deal with the giant raging river over which we&#039;re meant to build a bridge is pretty scary stuff, and life doesn&#039;t always have happy endings.

@Hayley - I get where your coming from. I never believed in the golden rule of treat others as you wish to be treated (mainly cause of the giant logic flaw. ie if your into kink and wish to be spanked, go around and spank everyone. It doesn&#039;t always work out like it&#039;s meant to), but I DO understand the wish to be treated with respect, and love. Friendships aren&#039;t always easy, and people don&#039;t always treat them like other relationships (ie with your family, or partner) and so they don&#039;t always have the same channels of communication open for you to suss out what the issue&#039;s are, and they don&#039;t always treat the trust and loyalty required in the same realm, you know? So in that sense, even though it may not always be the right thing to do it&#039;s easier and less painful to drop them, so yeah, I totally get where your coming from.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>@Sarah &#8211; yeah, I think your right. At the same time picking up the phone to deal with the giant raging river over which we&#8217;re meant to build a bridge is pretty scary stuff, and life doesn&#8217;t always have happy endings.</p>
<p>@Hayley &#8211; I get where your coming from. I never believed in the golden rule of treat others as you wish to be treated (mainly cause of the giant logic flaw. ie if your into kink and wish to be spanked, go around and spank everyone. It doesn&#8217;t always work out like it&#8217;s meant to), but I DO understand the wish to be treated with respect, and love. Friendships aren&#8217;t always easy, and people don&#8217;t always treat them like other relationships (ie with your family, or partner) and so they don&#8217;t always have the same channels of communication open for you to suss out what the issue&#8217;s are, and they don&#8217;t always treat the trust and loyalty required in the same realm, you know? So in that sense, even though it may not always be the right thing to do it&#8217;s easier and less painful to drop them, so yeah, I totally get where your coming from.</p>
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		<title>By: hayley</title>
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		<dc:creator>hayley</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 04 Apr 2009 21:40:02 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>i freeze up always when friends things get tough. it kinda sucks though because in one way if you fight it out at least you get closure. i just full on drop the person. i am just too critical with people. we they do something that i dont think is right i just full on drop them usually without saying much at all. when im friends with someone i place heaps of faith and loyalty in them, so if they disapoint me this idealistic bonds i hold with them shatter. i have been learning to work at this though. caz sometimes friends do disapoint...well, often really. but i just feel like the whole idea of friendship is a dying thing in most people (but a few) because i know i would never treat my friends like that. so maybe its not just a idalistic thing but kinda being treated like you know you treat others. i dunno.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>i freeze up always when friends things get tough. it kinda sucks though because in one way if you fight it out at least you get closure. i just full on drop the person. i am just too critical with people. we they do something that i dont think is right i just full on drop them usually without saying much at all. when im friends with someone i place heaps of faith and loyalty in them, so if they disapoint me this idealistic bonds i hold with them shatter. i have been learning to work at this though. caz sometimes friends do disapoint&#8230;well, often really. but i just feel like the whole idea of friendship is a dying thing in most people (but a few) because i know i would never treat my friends like that. so maybe its not just a idalistic thing but kinda being treated like you know you treat others. i dunno.</p>
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		<title>By: Sarah @ BecomingSarah.com</title>
		<link>http://www.rarg.co.nz/2009/were-not-even-facebook-friends-anymore/#comment-132</link>
		<dc:creator>Sarah @ BecomingSarah.com</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 02 Apr 2009 21:31:51 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Ugh, losing a friend is tough, especially when the friend is someone you&#039;re particularly close to.

That said, I don&#039;t think it&#039;s ever too late to do something about it, to change the path you two are taking.  People, being human, make mistakes and mess up and fall apart and are sewn back together again all the time.  If you want something different, you might not be able to do it by Facebook anymore.  But then again, that&#039;s what telephones are for.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Ugh, losing a friend is tough, especially when the friend is someone you&#8217;re particularly close to.</p>
<p>That said, I don&#8217;t think it&#8217;s ever too late to do something about it, to change the path you two are taking.  People, being human, make mistakes and mess up and fall apart and are sewn back together again all the time.  If you want something different, you might not be able to do it by Facebook anymore.  But then again, that&#8217;s what telephones are for.</p>
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		<title>By: desiree fawn</title>
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		<dc:creator>desiree fawn</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 30 Mar 2009 03:15:53 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Absolutely!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Absolutely!</p>
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		<title>By: Elly</title>
		<link>http://www.rarg.co.nz/2009/were-not-even-facebook-friends-anymore/#comment-130</link>
		<dc:creator>Elly</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 29 Mar 2009 23:53:03 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>@Desiree - yeah, it&#039;s totally not fun. It DOES make you appreciate the friends you have, though. I&#039;m glad the people I surround myself with now are the kind where this drama just wouldn&#039;t happen. It&#039;s all very reassuring you know?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>@Desiree &#8211; yeah, it&#8217;s totally not fun. It DOES make you appreciate the friends you have, though. I&#8217;m glad the people I surround myself with now are the kind where this drama just wouldn&#8217;t happen. It&#8217;s all very reassuring you know?</p>
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		<title>By: desiree fawn</title>
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		<dc:creator>desiree fawn</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 29 Mar 2009 23:00:38 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Yuck. I&#039;ve gone through that whole ex-friend business and it&#039;s not fun. People grow apart though &amp; I&#039;m sure you&#039;re better off -- she&#039;s clearly the one who&#039;s missing out!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Yuck. I&#8217;ve gone through that whole ex-friend business and it&#8217;s not fun. People grow apart though &amp; I&#8217;m sure you&#8217;re better off &#8212; she&#8217;s clearly the one who&#8217;s missing out!</p>
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